The project is about "domestic violence", which is not just physical conflict in the usual sense, but I would like to talk about "parental power" - class power - that is common in Chinese families. This kind of violence doesn't just hurt you physically, it also destroys your emotional system. Memories are always fragmented to show the colourful parts of an experience.

My memories told me as I grew up that these experiences represented a combination of love and violence, that violence doesn't have to exist in love, that they are not symbiotic. "Violence is often directed at the "weaker", and this is also reflected in a family system. The child is usually physically defenceless and has not yet developed a strong psychological system, and the parents usually think that they can easily destroy and rebuild all this, and then tell the child that "all this" is based on love, so that the child recognises the symbiotic relationship between violence and love, and only gives love back. (It doesn't quite work that way either.) The project is based on my memories of "traditional" parent/child memories, and I want to analyse the reasons behind them based on my memories and research, with the aim of understanding the social issues and cultural context behind the memories, and to be able to relate to the experiences and feelings from my daughter's/son's point of view.

"It's not too much love, it's too little freedom." Such unhealthy interactions between parents and their children often have the effect of modelling their children's behaviour in such a way that when things cannot be resolved, violence is an option. A parent who relies on violence to raise their children creates children with similar psychology and temperament.

And my writing is about remembering some of the events that actually happened, more just in being a record.